Grudges reside at the core of human drama, keeping us locked in a prison of bitterness, with a self-imposed sentence. We keep the moment of betrayal cued up and ready to play whenever we feel down. Unprocessed pain is the raw building material for resentment and grudge.
Forgiveness requires deep human love, crossing the abyss of human alienation, the ability to shed light on what was too painful to be brought out of the shadows before. It is our main tool to release the fear of believing a lie, allowing us to face the painful truth with love.